I wrote a post last week about Coachella. In the post, I said some things that weren’t very nice. Mainly, I was exasperated by the big group of concert-goers who were staying at the same hotel we were in: they were truly annoying. However, I was wrong to base my opinion of an entire music festival on a very small fraction of the people who were there…especially when I WASN’T there myself.
I got a couple of pretty mean comments, including one person who told me that I was egocentric and mocked my blog posts. That wasn’t very fun to read. There was another person who said I was negative, stupid, intolerant and closed-minded.
I understand disagreeing with someone’s opinion, but has a complete stranger ever said that to you? Would you ever say that to anyone?
I guess that is beside the point, because it already happened, but still…it was definitely not a “feel good” post. I know I didn’t feel good about it.
But then I got this comment from someone named Duy, who wrote:
I appreciate your perspective, but, Kendra, perhaps keeping positive and making small efforts not to offend would make the world a better place. I went to Coachella and didn’t feel like festival goers were as you described them. Your post came off as from someone a bit insecure, though I’m sure that’s not true at all. I felt like most people there were just enjoying life and having a good time, not “in your face” and trying to outdo each other at all… But maybe where you stayed had some kids doing just that?
He was right. Totally right. And I appreciated his comment so much. He managed to capture the essence of the issue in such a perfect, wonderful way. I loved that he decided to comment, and I REALLY love the way he decided to say his piece.
So thank you, Duy. I hope you are reading this. And again, I’m sorry, Coachella. I judged you very unfairly based on the actions of a few people. I said things about you that weren’t true and I didn’t even have a real reason to say them because I wasn’t even there. In other words, my eye-rolling was unwarranted, my exasperation was misplaced, and I had a bad attitude.
For all those of you out there who are heading to Coachella this weekend, I hope you have a wonderful time. May the music be awesome, the weather be gorgeous, and the flowers in your hair be fragrant and beautiful.